ALL THE HALLMARKS OF SUCCESS BUT SOMEHOW FEEL EMPTY?
Here’s a secret: When you feel like this, it’s because your actions are out of alignment with the person you were created to be.
When there’s a discrepancy between what you’ve done and the fulfillment you crave chances are you’re chasing dreams that were never yours, to begin with.
Extrinsic Motivation is Expensive and Toxic:
How did you get attention as a little kid?
If you were always the superstar, the bad kid, the quiet kid who was rewarded for not bothering anybody…
…these identities were placed on you by other people and when you live up to them…instant dopamine hit! (anybody have a gold star reward chart when you were little?)
We repeat the same sorts of behavior that got us attention as a child because that’s the identity we internalize as our story.
Too often we base our worth contingent on the result we produce, because for many of us that is how we earned praise and attention from others.
It gets exhausting though...the energy and effort to keep up the “song and dance” you feel obligated to produce creates constant tensions and serious conflict.
You are NOT what you do.
You have inherent value and when you calibrate your internal compass to your True North you will be successful regardless of the circumstances you find yourself in.
WHEN YOU’RE CHASING AN IDENTITY THAT’S NOT YOUR TRUE NORTH YOU’LL NEVER CATCH IT
How many people do you know that have the fancy car, season box seats for their team, golf the best courses in the world and have made more than enough money, but are still not happy?
External Motivation Demands EXTERNAL Rewards To Win.
Hans Selye, the renowned psychiatrist that coined the term ”stress” says that the most persistent and negative origin of stress is when we act in ways that are not consistent with who we truly are.
We put ourselves at war within ourselves.
….think about what it's like to be around a family member or perhaps a childhood friend and what it feels like to be around them…to fall into comfortable patterns and meet THEIR expectations of how they’ve defined you.
Our actions are subconscious and automatic because we behave the way our environment expects us too….even if it feels really awful….but we are compelled to do it anyway.
When we act in a way that undermines our identity we subject ourselves to a war within.
If you aren’t living a life anchored to True North you’ll be chasing a WHY that somebody else gave you, something that came from outside you and that will NEVER provide the deep rooted contentment you crave.
If you don’t know WHO… if your actions don’t exemplify the values and character strengths inherent in the core of your being…then your WHY is a lie.
YOU END UP WITH A LEDGER FULL OF SUCCESSES AND AN EMPTY ACHE IN YOUR SOUL THAT SOMETHING’S NOT RIGHT…
Working more doesn’t soothe it.
Achieving more doesn’t quiet it.
Alcohol or Adrenaline might distract you from it but that deep dissatisfaction still rubs like a shoe that doesn’t fit.
Addiction to distractions only fuels your underlying anger and you feel trapped by success.
And when that constant internal conflict and tension spills out it hurts the people you care about most…
…you can’t get on the same page with your spouse and dealing with your kids is exponentially more frustrating than when they were going through their terrible twos.
Without True North, even elites in their field succumb to the frustrating downward spiral of dangerous behavior to cope or suffer a slow agonizing burn that leaves them questioning why they even bother…
I’m Dr. Andy Garret, the world’s leading authority on identity.
I have a doctorate in clinical psychology and extensive studies in life coaching and consultancy.
My clinical expertise is engineering psychological solutions that employ a unique holistic integration of philosophy, theology and positive psychology which places me at the forefront of a revolutionary movement to deeply understand and connect with WHO we are created to be.
In blending this approach with cognitive behavioral psychology, existential psychology, and solution-focused strategies, my programs provide a transformative experience to clients who desire a concierge style of premium clinical and coaching services.
Since 2009 I have helped thousands of people in my thriving in-person practice in Newport Beach, California.
In addition I’ve developed a mode to serve clients outside the immediate radius of my in-person practice, coaching individuals who seek the clarity and conviction to live in radical authenticity.
My goal is to help people uncover their True North and guide them to thrive despite the pressures of the world.
YOU HAVE TWO CHOICES:
Continue the Destructive Patterns That Orchestrated Your Current Reality
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ROMAN CATHOLIC DIOCESE OF ORANGE